Mother’s Day + Hard Relationships

Mother’s Day can be a difficult day for those of us who have made the heartbreaking decision to separate ourselves from our toxic relationships in the name of self-care. In a society that exalts the sacrifices of being a mother, it’s incredibly hard to be a child who has stepped away and said…

I love you, but I will no longer be the target of your projection.
I love you, but I will not absorb your pain for you.
I love you, but I will no longer be the source of your narcissistic supply.
I love you, but I don’t owe you for being alive.
I love you, but I’m not responsible for your happiness.
I love you, but I am my own person, and you are yours.
I love you, but I value myself more than to allow you to treat me this way.
I love you, but I love me too.

For those of us who have reason to be a little bit blue on Mother’s Day, I’m thinking of you.

Your healing is my healing and my healing is yours.

Today I celebrate your compassion, your resiliency, your character, and your strength.